My Best Friends

We go through many phases in our lives. Friends too keep changing according to the phases of our lives. I have had many friends who had come and go in my life. My first encounter with friends dated back when I was in kindergarten. That time, my best friend was my back door neighbour...S.Rajeswary. We were so close and I don't think we have ever fought with each other. I have got only good memories of her. We would go everywhere together . My friendship with her lasted till we were in Form Five. After Form Five , her parents got her married and off she went to Singapore following her hubby. I went on to Form Six. That was the end of my friendship with her. How I wish we had handphones and internet at that time. Now she's back in KK. I do see her once in while when I am back in KK but somehow the closeness is no more there. I don't know why. Till Form Five, I used to have many many friends.... a mixture of all races. When I went to Form 6, all my secondary friends had disappeared except for Khanna and A.Rajes who still keep in touch with me till now. There were only a handful of us who were truly RPKians in Form 6. Most of the students were from other schools. At that point of time, I became very close to Nur Aida and Khairul Hayati. They were my good buddies. We had good fun in form six and ended up not getting a place in the u. Aida and I went to Teacher's Training College (TTC) and Khairul landed herself a job in the Income Tax Dept. I have lost contact with Aida but Khairul and I do keep in touch with each other. I think, once a woman gets married, she will lose contact with all her friends. After my form six, while waiting for my results I was brought to KL to help my uncle in his legal firm. My job was mainly attending the calls. There I got to know Sukhpal Singh whom I mistook him for an Indian as I overheard his name as Gopal. A very nice, caring and helpful person. He was my first male friend as I had studied in an all girls' school right from standard 1 up to Form 6. We just had the chemistry as we could talk for hours and got along very well. I lost track of him too (prior to my wedding) but we did kept in touch occasionally. After a few months there, I got a place in TTC in Batu Pahat, Johor. Faithed I guess......met my hubby there. He was my senior. He, Selva, Jeyamalar and I became good close friends in TTC. Selva and Guna were our seniors and they were truly helpful. They were our food suppliers in college especially during the weekend when the cafeteria would be closed. From a very good friend, Guna and I became lovers and eventually husband and wife. He's my soulmate, my shoulder to cry on, my advisor, my critique, my morale booster and my fighting partner as I don't fight with anyone else except with him. Fighting in the sense of verbal arguments....! In short, he's my everything. While I was posted back to KK, I became close to Miss Yeoh who is in her mid 40's now and is still single. I too was a married single since my husband was in PJ and I was in KK. She would cook chee cheong fun for me and deliver it to my house when I was expecting my girls. A very caring friend indeed. Since I am a good listener and a tight-lipped person, she will pour out her feelings to me.We still keep in touch but it has been quite some time since I last met her. When I got my transfer back to Selangor, I felt lonely. Everything was new to me. I had to start from scratch again. Thanks to the ever helpful Kausalya, my colleague in school. She was there to help me as I was in the daze leaving my children behind after getting a sudden transfer. At that point of time, I was still breastfeeding Thurgashini. A very bitter moment for me but it was the most happiest moment for Guna coz I didn't get my transfer till the third year of my marriage. Everyone accused me saying I didn't want to leave my comfort zone...my parents' home. It was very easy to talk behind my back without actually knowing that I would diligently apply my transfer twice a year. Miss Yeoh was there for me in the trying times. Almost a year after I was transfered here, I got reconnected with my best pal, Sukhpal again. He's one friend who will go extra miles to help without expecting anything from you. But of course, now we don't talk for hours. At times, I think one should have a friend of different gender. It's good in the sense of, they will have a different perspective of views.... When we have a problem, we will see it from one point of angle but our opposite sex friend will see it from a totally different point of angle......correct me if I am wrong. All my friends are good friends but my soulmate Gunalan will always be the best among the rest coz as I said he's my everything!!!!!!

Today in history. My first posting in the blog.Thank you very very much Vijay for assisting me in creating my blog.